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I was so stuck in self-sabotage that I wanted to end my life.
I knew I wouldn't but I thought about it a lot.
Despite my years of training in life mastery, coaching, and emotional healing, I felt like a failure—isolated, humiliated, and unworthy.
I was EXHAUSTED and running on low, deficient energy. I worked hard to "heal myself" to feel worthy and deserving of having my deepest desires fulfilled.
I am smart, very capable, very loving and service-oriented. For the life of me, I couldn't understand how my very independent, strong self couldn't make things happen like they did before I started to “awaken”.
As you can tell, I didn't kill myself. I am so glad I didn't because, now, I wake up happy and motivated every day.
I got there, by discovering my soul's purpose and aligning my life to support its fulfillment.
My journey toward fulfillment had a rocky start. I would become aligned with my soul's purpose and wake up happy for about a week or two.
Then boom! Out of nowhere, I would feel like the world's greatest loser .... and tailspin downward.
It was EXHAUSTING!!! I wanted to catch a steady wave of motivation and momentum and keep riding it with joy . . and then catch another and another. I wanted to be free!
There is a very tenacious part of me that won’t give up. So I pulled up my bootstraps and made it my mission to chase down the reasons why I kept shooting myself in my own foot. I wanted to heal them once and forever so I could handle life’s obstacles with grace, ease and land fully empowered on my feet.
What I discovered was I wasn’t fighting against myself; I was protecting my true self. Our true self is the part of us that loves feeling open, empowered, and freely expressive. It feels no shame, guilt, or fear and naturally has strong energetic boundaries of self-respect, confidence, and connection. It’s the part of you that is fearless to pursue love, business success, and high-quality self-care.
WHO IS YOUR INNER SABOTEUR?
Your “inner saboteur,” a part of you that fiercely loves your true self, and will protect you from reliving the pain of past trauma(s).When the threat of trauma is gone, its true purpose is to support you to carry all of your power. It wants you to be happy, abundant and fulfill your soul’s purpose.
It has your back no matter what because that’s its purpose.
It wants you to believe in yourself,
It wants you to feel and know you are powerful,
-Worthy
-Valuable
-Important
-Lovable
-Deserving and capable.
Your inner saboteur will thwart your efforts to step out and shine when it feels your authentic self is open to attack.
In defense of not repeating a past trauma, it has vowed to "Never let you show your true self again"
Everyone has childhood traumas, some more destructive than others ... to very young innocent children, especially sensitive empaths, even a parent having a bad day can feel like total annihilation, total destruction, a total denial of self.
Being rewarded for jumping through the hoops of a parent's expectations that don’t align with your true nature, is a huge denial of self and a source of self-sabotage.
When I did this deep work, I realized that I had jumped through so many hoops of my parents' expectations, I ended up feeling like I did not exist, or have a purpose.
This is a super common theme for many leaders and achievers who look back at their lives and wonder, “When will I arrive?” Sadly, many leaders and achievers realize their fully justified and logical choices hurt the ones they loved the most . . . which is a horrible way to go through life. . . and why I am so passionate about getting this information out and helping as many people as possible to heal beyond these unconscious habits.
Your inner saboteur undermines your efforts because it prefers to keep your true self hidden for protection. It does this by pushing you to act in ways that seem more acceptable or powerful to those in authority (parents, teachers, bosses, or loved ones) rather than risk facing rejection, criticism, manipulation, or abandonment again. Some people will decide to cope by being a powerless, worthless, valueless, unimportant, and unlovable person first, so they’re not expected to be something they are not again. So they don’t become shattered again. Either way, it is a rejection of self…. Which is the true cause of self-sabotage.
THE GOOD NEWS
The good news is this part of you is stuck in the past. It doesn't know that things are different for you now.
It doesn't realize that you are all grown up, with valuable skills, wisdom, training, and better support systems.
It doesn’t know that you can stand and advocate for yourself now.
You can talk with your inner saboteur and bring it up to speed. You can ask it to stop keeping your true self protected and safely hidden and start supporting you to express your authentic nature and let your true self shine. I like to use a combination of subconscious mindset coaching, energy healing, and somatic breathwork to support people in updating outdated subconscious programming like self-sabotage.
Deep spiritual healing and transformation work like this — is no easy feat on your own. It requires looking at your behaviors through a higher perspective and the courage to move beyond stubborn survival fears that always accompany change.
The best way to embark on a healing journey like this is to team up with an experienced coach and healer, who’s been there, done that and knows the gentlest, most effective and Cadillac ways to step out, shine and life express your true authentic self.
If you’re looking for support to stop self-sabotaging behaviors, let’s set up a time to connect.
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Meet the expert:
Grace Mosgeller is a spiritual healing and transformation specialist who has been teaching strong women to open their hearts and trust love for almost 30 years. She is the creator of The Personal Power Acceleration program, an author, writer, and keynote speaker.
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