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I know one clear way you can reduce stress and overwhelm in your business. You do not
need to sign up for the next course or accreditation. In fact, you have everything you
need and can begin lowering stress and adding discovery and expansion today.
Add your intuition to the team.
That’s what I did and a year later my business is transformed, making more money, and
feels a lot more FUN.
The twist in the plot is that it was not a straight line to intuitive guidance and business
success as there are a lot of other messages crowding the thinking mind…there are a
myriad of ‘shoulds’.
I have a direct open line on the cosmic telephone line.
I am clearly connected to my intuition. I can hear spirit, in fact, it's the magic inside all
of my success. It's what helped me shift from my big life loss to my big life magic.
I can hear spirit, but it doesn't always mean I'm listening.
As 2023 begins I declare crunch time in my business. Big Life Magic is going well and
the vision is bigger now. My husband and I have just pulled off our first successful
retreat on our island home in Tobago. This has been a dream of ours for years. On the
bliss rays and in the afterglow of the retreat we can see it clearly.
THE DREAM! We're going to build a retreat center here on the island of Tobago.
And here comes the first twist in the plot… we are going to need some serious bankroll
to build this dream.
All upon a sudden, the dream is slicked over with a layer of tension.
So I click into overdrive and declare, “OK, let's build this thing. Time to upscale the
business.”
My intuition whispers “Oh, I've got an idea”
I don't listen to that because the ‘should’ generated from the tension is screaming, and getting louder.
So, I follow the should.
You should develop a high ticket offer.
You should double down on your thought leadership in grief transformation
You should do what all those successful people are doing, like fancy email sequencing
and posting over social media all the time.
So I begin my ‘should-shuffle’ and steadily build stress layers inside my business and
across my shoulders.
I ‘should’ my way into investing my time and my money into the development of my
thought leadership as a grief guide and develop my new high ticket offer. I convince
myself that this is the way. After all, it is what others have done.
It starts to feel heavier and harder. It's feeling a bit like I am stomping through a swamp of shoulds.
I hear my intuition again. It shares, “I don't think this is the way.”
My sweaty stressed response is, “Shut up Spirit. Success is this way and I should be
feeling this way as success is hard and you just have to work hard at it.”
And I do. I work very hard. I double down on all I know about grief transformation. I am
convinced this is the key to unlock my high ticket success.
The day comes. The new high ticket lead generation workshop. I open the zoom room
and all these people flood in. All the people I've worked really hard to invite. The
workshop is successful, there's high engagement and at the end, a very clear call to
action for people to opt-in for my new offer.
I close the zoom room feeling ‘shouldly successful’, and then I will wait.
It is silent.
I am waiting for that beautiful payment ding notification on my phone telling me that
people are giving me the dollars upon dollars my ‘should’ told me to expect.
And it's silent. Day after day it's silent.
In the quiet my intuition shares, “I tried to tell you so.”
The following week I'm in New York City. I'm teaching some workshops and working
with my magic community. I feel free and despite my desire for the dollars I also feel
relieved. I should feel sad or mad, but I am not. I realized that the ‘high ticket offer’ was
going to come at a high price for me, as the swamp and heavy feelings were set to get
worse, not better. I am so relieved that no one chose to purchase, I am free. I wonder if I
wish to be free from my work with grief. It makes no sense as this is the work I have
been developing for years, it's what I speak about, it's the content in my book. Isn’t this
where my success should be?
I hear murmurs of new ways muffled deep in my intuition, yet I can’t fully tune in as the ‘should screaming’ has hurt my ears.
I wonder, what will I do now?
I am given the opportunity to stay at my friend's fancy Manhattan apartment. She lives
on the 34th floor in the financial district. I am literally up high looking out over
buildings of abundance in Manhattan. From the higher perspective I tune in…this is
where I can listen from, high above the shoulds. It’s time to tune back in. I open the
cosmic telephone line.
Every morning while I'm there, on my second cup of coffee (the first one is for
journaling and meditation), I sit down to a very important meeting with my business
and my intuition. Over the first few days the ‘shoulds’ start to untangle and melt away.
Days into this morning ritual I heard it, what I really needed to know.
Spirit says clearly, “You were never meant to be a grief guide. You are a spiritual
teacher.”
My breath stops and I start to cry. It's not the sobbing of sad tears, it's the sobbing of
being seen so clearly. It feels awe-some, truly awesome where the awe is asking for some more.
I'm a spiritual teacher! I smile through tears and I open my listening.
I breathe into my heart and I wait, and then I hear,
“Yes, your journey was through grief and your heart. Your heart had to break so that
you could go into the intense learning of how human hearts heal. That has taught you
everything you need to know. You are ready to level up. You are not to share with only
grieving hearts. Your work is with all hearts. You are a spiritual teacher.”
That day I skip to my yoga class and grinned through the whole session as my ‘should
lessons’ deepened. My ‘should’ had led me to sharing what I believed was the most
useful, and the way that felt safe. My ‘should’ was not bad, it was me trying to help,
others and myself. My ‘should’ had been what I needed years ago, and it was time to let
go, to discover a new story for me. My dream was inspiring a new narrative and it was
time to listen deeply as spirit was set to begin telling the story.
It took weeks for the complete should detox and for the themes and notes from spirit to
begin to make sense. And, I waited. I did not rush ahead. I felt assured that now
connected back to my cosmic line that all things were possible.
When my new high ticket offer arrived it lapped up to me like a warm wave that invites
you to dive in and swim. It was not the swamp of shoulds, it was clear and it felt good. It still feels good. And it continues to lap up to my shore.
My intuition and spirit were right, they did have a good idea and a better way. We are
now playing together and co-creating the next layer of the dream and it has everything
to do with HEARTS and MAGIC! And women, and the elevation of our collective wave of positive change. My new offer is a high ticket offering and it feels aligned, but that is not all. Once I unlocked the authentic aligned offer for me (thanks intuition, you were right on the money) I was delighted to discover new layers in the progression of my business.
I met the second quarter of 2024 with the established new offer, plus new avenues for
retreats and a fully registered elite immersion experience on the island for my new
clients in October. What I couldn’t see when I was ‘should-shielding’ was the expansion
of my business did not have to mean more time at the laptop and in sales launches.
What is aligned and true now is more time working with amazing women and a lot more time in nature with the depths of beauty and inspiration my Tobago island life offers.
When we allow our intuition onto the team we open up possibilities we cannot see with
our thinking minds. We open up beyond our imagination and reach new pathways
forward. It is true that your intuition cannot lie to you. It is literally impossible. Your
intuition is not only the voice of truth it is the greatest navigator you will ever meet.
So please, tell your ‘shoulds’ to shhh (shut up!), and your spirit to begin singing. That's
the way to your top shelf business success without the heavy shoulders of stress.
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Meet the author:
Debra has practiced and taught spiritual development and healing practices for over twenty-five years. The foundation of her work is HEART REPAIR, stitching together the threads of your ENERGETIC HEART and its relationship to your SOUL. Using intuitive guidance, spiritual practice, and storytelling Debra helps people tap into their magic so they can heal, transform, and expand. Debra invites women to BE HER, the woman who is active in seeking and building her big life and saying YES to the magic within.
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