1 Thing You Could Do To Get Unstuck and Connect with Your Daughter at Love Again

You are worthy of the relationship that you desire with your daughter, regardless of what it looks and feels like right now. The vision you create is your guiding light drawing you in to become the version of yourself who connects with herself and her daughter easily.

What does that mean?

The one simple shift is intentionally separating your emotional needs and opportunities

for personal development from your relationship with your daughter.

It is the decision to identify your needs and to separately consider your daughter’s

perspective. What does she see? How does she feel?

While your daughter does serve as a poignant mirror revealing areas for your self-

reflection and growth, the thoughts, feelings, and emotions that arise for you are your

work.

It is common to feel confusion, overwhelm, anxiety and even powerlessness when the

two are comingled. And you will feel empowered as you begin to embrace these two

truths.

This period is inviting you to connect with yourself and connect with your daughter at

love again. Your daughter needs you to show your ability to meet your needs and hold

space for her too.

Consider what is important to her at this point in her life. What may she be experiencing at school, work, within your family, other relationships, career, and her health, etc.?

When is the last time you did that? Meet her there.

I recall making our relationship all about me.

I noticed my relationship with my daughter change when she was about 15 years old.

My husband began working more nights consistently. I quickly realized she spent all her

time in her bedroom AND there were only two of us in the house. It was not only that

she spent so much time alone but also the stories I was making up about myself. They

were mean and I could not get them to stop. They all revolved around me being

unlovable.

So, I began to dread these nights. I did not know what to do with myself because we

spent a lot of time together previously. Friends and family were no help. “Just wait it

out,” they said.

I felt shocked. I thought I had been an awesome Mom. I had heard of this happening

with other teens, but I never thought it would happen to me.

I feared the uncertainty of being shutout and what would happen next.

For months and months, I never thought to look through her eyes.

And until I got honest with myself and acknowledged that I felt unloved, scared, and

alone and then released them as part of my relationship with my daughter, nothing

changed for me.

Before making this shift in our thinking, we attach thoughts and feelings from childhood, past experiences, beliefs about ourselves and other conditioning into our relationship and create unnecessary struggle and pain for ourselves.

You can separate these two areas of your life also!

Moreover, you are more than worthy of connecting with your daughter at Love.

In Summary, first, decide to work on yourself in order to evolve thinking that is not

serving you, habits and old generational beliefs. The time is now. Ask for help, seek

resources in your community or online, invest in yourself.

Then, allow yourself to put aside your work and make space to be with your daughter.

Learn more about her. Consider an activity that the two of you enjoyed when she was

younger. Listen to and connect with her. Value who she is as a person. The deep

connection that you cultivate will help her thrive earlier in life.

I wish you so much love, clarity, freedom and spaciousness in your mind and body as

you embrace this truth and connect with your daughter at love.

Meet the expert:

Tina Mayhew, a Mother Daughter Connection Coach, took her relationship with her daughter into her own hands to find answers to her feelings of unworthiness and disconnection. Her work turned into a mission to help as many Moms as possible connect with their daughters, at love. Her superpower is teaching Moms to meet their own need to be loved.

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