5 Strategies to Deepen Self Love
- HEATHER BROWNE
- 2 days ago
- 4 min read
What are 5 strategies that you can implement to maintain your connection and love yourself?
1.Focus on allowing love to flow through you. Focus on sending love out to everything and everyone who is around you. As you do this you will experience more love. You will be creating love. And as you focus on this flow, you will become part of it. One morning I woke up and I felt really blah and really blue. I didn’t want to get out of bed. I focused on my bed, the warmth, the softness. I thanked God that I had a bed. Then I thanked him for my kitty soft blanket. I caressed it and smelled it and hugged it. I heard a bird outside and thanked God for the bird and my ears that could hear it and my eyes that could see it. I thanked God that I had a window so I could see it and I thanked myself that I was taking this time to see this bird. Then the wind blew my windchime. I love windchimes, and I thanked God for the wind, and my windchime, and my window, and the beautiful bird, and my ears to hear, and my eyes to see, and that I took this time, and my soft blanket, and my warm bed, and I jumped out of bed, really happy and grateful for all that I have and all I had allowed myself to experience right now.
Focus on allowing love to flow through you. Focus on sending love out to everything and everyone who is around you. As you do this you will experience more love.
2.When a negative thought pops into your mind, ask yourself if this thought serves you or if that thought is one that you want to keep thinking about? It is one of the quickest ways to recognize when you are creating a negative experience for yourself. Just yesterday I put on a dress that I haven’t worn in a long time. I also haven’t been exercising as often as I had been when I last wore that dress. My immediate thought was,“Your thighs look big.”That isn’t a thought that serves me well, so I took off the dress, realized it’s time to do some more yoga and thanked the dress for this helpful information.I chose a dress that is looser and I looked great. Andtomorrow, I have a yoga class. I will try the dress again in two weeks. Until then, it hangs in my closest to remind me I look better when I do yoga. And that is helpful.
3.When you want to be lazy versus complete something that is important, ask yourself “What is the best choice for me to do?” I live alone except for my pets. It would be really easy for me to not do the dishes, not take out the trash, and not pick up the poops until someone is coming over. But I feel better with a clean house and yard. And it is better for my pets and my things to be cared for. It also makes me happy
to come home and walk into a clean place that is welcoming. I don’t have to do these things, but I choose to as I feel better about myself. And I thank myself for caring about my experience too.
I don’t have to do these things, but I choose to as I feel better about myself.
4.Treat yourself. Do things for yourself and consider it a treat. Coffee in the morning can be a treat. Do simple things that please you. Listen to music, light candles, watch a movie, eat popcorn, ride your bike, watch a sunset. Remember that you are treating yourself. After you can do this 1000 times a day. Choose 2. Each day, start with 2. Each thing you do can be a gift to yourself. And that feels good. There is joy in simple things you do to bless you.
5.When something gets hard or goes wrong, be gentle. Things will go wrong. Learn from it, but be gentle with yourself. Change is hard. Messing up is harder, but it is an absolutely important part of growth. Sit down with yourself and mark out what you have learned, what you can do to change it,and come up with a game plan. If you feel like apologizing to yourself because you know it will help, then do it. And then tell yourself you will grow and learn from here and that you are really excited about who you are right now becoming. And now tell yourself, I choose to love.
When something gets hard or goes wrong, be gentle. Things will go wrong. Learn from it, but be gentle with yourself. Change is hard. Messing up is harder, but it is an absolutely important part of growth.
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Dr. Heather Browne PsyD, LMFT helps people recognize the power of communication. It is one of our most important skills that we have, and yet we don’t consider our understanding, approach, belief, and therefore, miss our possibilities. Living with a paranoid schizophrenic mother gave Dr. Heather a unique and powerful awareness that no one has the same reality, though we believe we do.
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